I Never

First off, thanks to Quemars Ahmed The Great - as he claims himself to be for tonight's topic.

A rather brief description of I Never.

I never was introduced to me in YnG this spring conference. Basically, a crowd of people gather around in a circle, and one is left in the center, and the person in the center says something that they have never done before, like "I never had cookies" even though it's a pile of crap.

Others play it where they just sit their asses down and take turns saying they've never done a certain thing, and people with their two hands up remove one finger if they've done a certain thing.

Hey. we did it this way.

One thing I found interesting though: Women have done more shit in their lives than men ever have... accumulatively as a gender race thing.

Or maybe, in some areas.

I remember watching a bunch of girls play "I never" on a party, and for some reason they decided to play the horny - for the lack of a better term - way. I mean, they were firing stuff like, I've never slept naked, wear tightie whities and all that. And some people just put fingers down like Jason Bourne was sniping down one target after another.

Yep. It's that amazing.

I'm simply amazed on how many things these people have done in their lives, compared to me, who considers himself a very daring person who is very much open to party with a keg somewhere down in cancun without spending a buck, or just chilling down watching midnight shows in comedy central, or just typing a blog like this in general. 

I'm not sure about the keg part, pardon me. But yes, I consider myself quite an adventurous one.

I realized that in my eighteen years of living, I could have done stuff that I couldve done way earlier in my life, like finding leagues or tournaments to play on, playing an instrument, getting a girlfriend, and everything else in between.

Now Stop. Are you the same person as I am? In certain situations? In some situations? 

Most of us are most likely are. The question now becomes "Why?"

One of the most common answer is is that we're scared. That's right folks, we're scared shitless to do something, only because you know the person right beside you will go against you on this decision.

Reality Check, people. Everyone's a critic.

And because people are critics, they try to make you side with them, which these people who critique you believe that their choices are much more sensible than yours. I don't blame them either, because I'm one of those people who will question one's decision in the beginning, but if I see the heart and the determination in someone that they can pull it off, then I believe in them and stop questioning them, and in return, I get a good relationship out of this person, as well as a future gift somewhere down my timeline of living.

The bottom line is this, as I don't like to mince my words much:

A lot of people are scared to do shit because they're afraid of the consequences.

A lot of people are scared to do shit because they think they're going to be hated for it for going with their hearts instead of their heads.

A lot of people are scared to do shit because they think they're not going to fit in anywhere.

Therefore, in contrast:

The opposite of these three tend to be more successful people. These people are more bold, and are never afraid to stand out. These people are more fun, because they are willing to take risks. These people are also the more sensible people because they go with what their heart says, and not the advice of other people.

I'm never one to preach, but if we all did the things that we wanted to do in life, an "I never" game could be even more interesting beyond belief.